i’d also like to tack on to the last post that just because a girl wears a dress/heels/skirt/or just attempts to look attractive in general at a show doesn’t mean she’s a fucking slut/trying to get with a band guy/etc. this may come as a shock, but guess what? some girls like to dress up sometimes. some girls like to dress up all the time. i wear heels or wedges all the fucking time, these days. when i go out, when i go to the store, when i walk the fucking dog. and guess what? i’m allowed to do that! and i’m especially allowed to do that without some fifteen year old girl side-eyeing me and calling me a slut as i pass by at a show whilst giggling to her friends(oh yeah, that’s happened, i can hear you you fucking idiots). i don’t give a shit that you’re wearing jeans and a t-shirt and no makeup, why do you give a shit about what i’m wearing? i’ve more than paid my dues in the pit, i have scars to prove it. don’t assume. i wish girls would focus less on slut-shaming each other and more on, oh, i don’t know, enjoying the band you paid to see.
i just want to reblog this and own up to the fact that i’ve been guilty of side-eyeing a girls at shows because they were dressed up, but i’ve been trying really hard to stop jumping to conclusions. i’m really close-minded sometimes when it comes to that because i just can’t see a show as anything less than a battlefield, sometimes. in that i always go with my shoes and hair tied tight and ready to get sweaty. so whenever i see someone that obviously sees shows differently, or just isn’t in that mood that night, or it’s not that band for them, i assume dumb things. it’s a shitty excuse, and i’m going to try really hard to stop jumping to those conclusions in my head.
